Archives for September 2019

Capitalists Are the Enemy of Us All (The Revolution Will Be Commodified)

Hug a conservative. We must beware of tribalism.

It’s the old story of the single-issue voter, red vs. blue, conservative vs. liberal.

Walk On By

No time to waste on Trumpers!

It’s what causes the thought error that, because radical feminists and religious fundamentalists agree on the existence of biological dimorphism they must, in fact, be members of the same group.

Or that someone who is “Pro-LGBT” supports social programs or civil liberties.

As those on the Left are fighting to defeat corrupt Republicans, we must remember who it was that corrupted them.

I don’t frequent sites like The Federalist but the headline was too good – Rich White Men Institutionalizing Transgender Ideology. The author Jennifer Bilek has one other article along the same lines. She appears to mainly be a gifted portrait artist.

But her interest in the subject was piqued a few years ago, “As an environmental activist who was deplatformed from a speaking venue by transactivists, in 2013 I developed curiosity about the power of this group to force this development.”

She says her years-long investigation took her down money trails to some of the richest, most influential, most anonymous men in the world.Pandora

She used the family of one transwoman as an example. “Once a family man and a decorated member of the armed forces, Jennifer Pritzker…. is one of the largest contributors to transgender causes and, with his family, an enormous influence in the rapid institutionalization of transgenderism.”

“Some of the organizations Jennifer owns and funds are especially noteworthy to examining the rapid induction of transgender ideology into medical, legal and educational institutions.”

The influential organizations Jen has in his pocket include:

  • The American Civil Liberties Union
  • Planned Parenthood
  • The Pritzker School of Medicine at the University of Chicago

Jen’s aunt and uncle founded a hospital for children’s psychiatry at UC San Francisco. There’s an LGBT medical center in Lakewood, Ohio. He funds the guy who decided Target needed gender-neutral bathrooms.

His cousin Penny is even better. She was instrumental in getting Barack Obama elected. Under Obama, she secured $70 million for biopharmaceuticals. “Penny has funded the Harvard School of Public Health…. as well as providing scholarships to Harvard University medical students.

“The Boston Children’s Hospital Gender Management Services wing physicians are all affiliated with Harvard Medical School.”

Sometimes we may marvel at how anyone is swallowing this regressive, sexist stuff. But if the people telling you your boy is really a girl are from Harvard, I think that would give most of us pause.

Disgust

I mean, Boston Children’s Hospital and Planned Parenthood? Way to hit us where we live, guys!

Penny’s brother J.B. ran for governor of Illinois last year. He owns and funds several medical technology companies. He and Jen both have global influence over what devices are in your hospital.

This is just a smattering of what Ms. Bilek reports. Several times, while listing all the prominent medical facilities founded for LGBT, she reminds us that homosexuals and bisexuals don’t need specialized medical care.

So who is all this for?

And it’s way more than medicine. “Along with support by pharmaceutical giants such as…. Pfizer…. Bristol-Meyers Squibb…. major technology corporations including Google, Microsoft, Amazon, Intel, Dell and IBM are also funding the transgender project.”

Can this really all be because they are afraid of being on the wrong side of history this time around?

The massive medical and technological infrastructure expansion for a tiny (but growing) fraction of the population with gender dysphoria, along with the money being funneled to this project by those heavily invested in the medical and technology industries, seems to make sense only in the context of expanding markets for changing the human body.

“Martine Rothblatt suggests we are all transhuman…. Expressing that could be a never-ending saga of body-related consumerism.”Farnsworth Meme

Ah, there it is! Capitalism loves to eat social movements and sell the regurgitated bile back to us.

Trans people are lifetime medical patients. It’s the perfect cure – The one you have to keep coming back for!

“As these corporations were pushing for transgender bathrooms, they were fighting President Trump’s travel ban and immigration policies. In reporting the incidents simultaneously, CNN News made the obvious connection between the corporations’ interest in the immigration ban and commerce…. “It is inflicting significant harm on American business, innovation and growth.”

“It made no such equivalent connection for the corporations’ interest in transgender rights. The obvious question would be: Why do they care? The obvious answer is:

Money.

Roulette

I don’t like these odds!

So while those of us on the Left rail against politicians who take money from the NRA, we have to look long and hard at those who we might consider part of the liberal cause.

We have all heard about the shrinking conservative base. How the GOP is the party of a fading demographic. While a Blue Wave might sound glorious, you can bet the capitalists are following the money.

They will abandon the conservatives as the money dries up and seek greener pastures. Like a newly reinforced Federal Government. And they will suck all the life out of any genuine progressive agenda by commodifying whatever they can.

Love the band? You’re not a real fan until you own the t-shirt!

And we will let them in the front door, like every time before. Because they will be raising money for the poor trans children.

The conservatives are going to lose, and we will have a whole new crop of villains emerge. Capitalists don’t care, they will fly whatever flag is necessary to gain the public’s trust. So they can empty our pockets.

Unpopular Opinion: Maternal Regret is Normal

“Traditionally, regret has been viewed as the purview of the childless.”

So claims an article in Canadian classic Maclean’s.

Penguins

The penguins are my babies and I regret nothing!

What? I understand childless people are often threatened with regret, but they don’t tend to voice it themselves.

Whereas, any parent can tell you, none of us do it right. Everyone comes out on the other side wishing they had known or understood something better. That they’d had more money or perspective.

But author Anne Kingston says when mothers express regret it’s “taboo.”

“Unsurprisingly, women who express regret are called selfish, unnatural, abusive.”

Which dovetails nicely with some Feminist ideas but just isn’t true in my experience. And I’ve been making small talk on playgrounds for over 10 years.

She lists other authors and articles along the same lines, illustrating the supposed trend of mothers admitting regret at having kids, and the backlash.

Really, anyone with an average understanding of feminine roles could imagine that reluctant mothers would be dumped on by a society that judges them by their children.

But down in the trenches it just isn’t this way.

Sure, there are tons of Mommy Bloggers whose beautifully curated lives make us all feel like Marge Simpson. But only Sanctimommies tear down other moms.

Reddit alone has several places where you can find real talk about mothering.

BreakingMom (Which I was recently auto-banned from for participating in Gender Critical spaces) is nothing but moms railing against the

Farm Girl

We’re all just trying to get shit done!

insanity that is parenthood.

BabyBumps has a lot of nursery pics and cute baby stories, but also plenty of scary moments and moms asking for advice.

ScaryMommy is a site whose entire premise is off-kilter takes on motherhood. The ‘Mommy Needs A Drink‘ trend is a hipper manifestation of this.

Yes, being a mom is fucking hard, sometimes in ways only other moms can understand. Sometimes we wish we were somewhere else. Sometimes we wonder what we might be doing if things were different.

Sometimes we even wish we had made different choices.

“Feeling trapped or suffocated is a common theme in Donath’s work; mothers felt ‘as if the metaphorical umbilical cord binding them to their children were in fact wrapped around their neck.’ Many women said they felt pressured to have children.”

No shit. That’s what Patriarchy does.

Obviously, we need to talk about it. But framing this as a babe-in-the-woods ambush is insulting to everyone.

If you feel suffocated by your children, first try reevaluating your approach to parenting. It’s easy to get overwhelmed, and with so much coming at us all the time, we probably feel like we are not doing enough.

Yesterday I was walking out of the bank at noon and realized literally the only thing I had done for myself that day was use the bathroom!

Bed Time

Did I miss story time?

There are only so many hours in a day, but childhood is long. Every moment is precious, but not crucial, if that makes sense.

I feel like I say no all the time, and I’m still swamped! It’s difficult to set boundaries but it’s better for everyone.

My trick has been to find a hobby no one else likes. The garden is on the sunny side of the house and involves using muscles and getting dirty. The only one who really wants to help is the toddler.

But all this takes some introspection. Because to admit regret is to admit complexity. Those of us who sit with our regrets are the type to consider things in depth.

French psychotherapist Corinne Maier is quoted sounding very French indeed, saying, “Her two children left her ‘exhausted and bankrupt,’ and she couldn’t wait for them to leave home.”

She was so upset about it she wrote a “manifesto.”

Kids are exhausting and expensive. We know this. If you decide that makes their existence a net loss for you, that’s a pretty harsh evaluation.

To say that you have regrets is different from saying you’d prefer something else. Saying I could have done better is not the same as saying I wish I hadn’t tried.

The impression I get is that some women want to be able to say, “In my perfect world, my kids wouldn’t exist,” and not

Golf Or Tennis Ladies

So I told Gary, practicing your swing is self-improvement!

get flack for it.

Which is why it’s all couched in this meta-analysis of the supposed blowback for normal maternal regret. If someone calls you a bad mother for admitting depth, she is the one with the problem.

And I just don’t see it on the ground.

If you are preoccupied with how much better your life could have been without your kids to the point you can’t wait to be rid of them, you may be the source of your own discontent.

Clicking around Maclean’s I found a counterpoint about the “collapse of parenting.” Cathy Gully quotes Vancouver psychologist Gordon Neufeld, “When parents realize that they are their children’s best bet, it challenges them to their own maturity.”

This really hits a nerve for me. I have felt myself chafe against the demands of parenthood many times. I have begun to learn what is a need calling out and what is my ego lashing out.

If you’re in charge of someone else’s life, you have to get your shit together.

“They become, in effect, the grown-ups their children need.

Or, at least, step up to the challenge.

Maternal Regret

Does it still count if I take my teddy bear with me?

If you are more worried about all the stuff you could be doing than any of the rest of the multifaceted experience we call motherhood, I can’t say that you are a bad mother.

But it definitely makes you shallow.

And “regretting parenthood, not the children” is less like being against the war but not the soldiers, and more like having your cake and eating it, too.

“I love you, but I wish you weren’t here” is nonsensical and mean. And using Patriarchy as an excuse for your inability to build meaningful relationships is as offensive as it is sneaky.

Maternal regret is normal. And it does get talked about. But it’s not the same as wishing your kids away.

Women have enough trouble discussing our issues without malingerers muddying the waters. Unironically using the supposed sanctity of motherhood as a cover to avoid criticism for being a jerk is a big middle finger to struggling mothers everywhere.

Part of being a true friend is calling your friend on her bullshit. And honey, this is some bullshit. Patriarchy is not why no one wants to hear about why you don’t like your kids.